Murstein's mate selection theory suggest that we go through three phases when working toward commitment. Stimulus phase- We make judgments towards a person based on external characteristics. Value Comparison Phase-We make judgments towards a person based on similar values and interest. Role Phase - the final stage in which committed partners work out their future life together.
Identity Issues
Identity Diffusion-a status in which the person is aimless or feels totally blocked, without any adult life path. Identity Foreclosure-a status in which the person decides on an adult life path without any thought. Moratorium- a status in which the person actively searches out various possibilities to find a truly solid adult life path. Identity Achievement-a status in which the person decides on a definite adult life path after searching out various options.